If you find yourself recently divorced, a Halala is a quick way to get back together with your ex.
Can you note the sarcasm yet? If not, this is a disclaimer that it is indeed, sarcasm.
“I got married a year ago and live in the UK. My husband (now my ex) divorced me thrice last week in anger. Now he feels guilty and wants me back. He suggested Halala with a friend of his. He doesn’t want anyone to know. I’m terrified and confused. What do I do? Is it compulsory to sleep with your new husband for Halala? I can’t tell my parents. I’m currently living in the same house with my ex-husband but in different rooms. I can’t tell anyone due to badnami. What should I do?!”
The above is just an example of the many concerning posts we see on social media every day. Women seeking help and questioning their ex’s decision to remarry.
Ever since an article regarding the practice became viral in 2017, people have started posting less about their domestic dilemmas online. No one wants to be a social pariah. Thus, as of yet, we have no way of confirming whether the numbers of those seeking out the “Halala services” have gone up or decreased over the years.
What Is A Halala?
What’s happening these days in the name of Halala are pre-planned marriages that are destined to end after a set period of time. They’re commonly used as a last resort to “cheat” the way out of a divorce.
As Zafar Iqbal Kalanauri, adjunct faculty at Shaikh Ahmed Hassan School of Law at LUMS, aptly elaborates on this theology in his ‘Marriage, Divorce and Re-Marriage (Halala) in Islam’:
“There is no concept of halala in Islam. This is something that has been made by some Muslims and unfortunately is now seen as part of the Shariah by some Muslims. The rule of the Holy Quran is that if a man divorces his wife for the third time in one marriage contract, then the wife cannot go back to the man unless she (genuinely) marries another man and then (genuinely) is divorced by that man… this rule should not be dealt with by pre-planned marriage and divorce.”source
Thus, Halala that is pre-planned is Haram in Islam and very much illegal in Pakistan. As are the numerous, discreet “Halala services” advertised online.
The Illusion of a Marriage?
Regardless, it’s worth noting that people will do anything, and resort to any practice, to keep the illusion of their marriage alive. Illusion, you say? Well, yes. If your significant other divorces you in a fit of rage, etc., then you need to question the basis and authenticity of your marriage.
Remember, communication is a two-way street full of fast cars. You simply cannot go frolicking in the middle of a busy road, without your eyes and ears open, now can you?
Get Rich Quick Schemes
Whenever there’s a market full of desperate people, the quacks gather to exploit their sorrows. There are tons of Facebook groups and OLX Ads. online that provide Halala services all over Pakistan.
The following is an absurd example of someone trying to take advantage of people that don’t know any better.
Halala Ad Service Might Look Like This One We Got Off the Net!
NOTE= this service is purely volunteer for deserving overseas Muslim community who really need to rejoin after Divorce mistaken or in angry, we never need any charges for ourselves. Do not contact for any membership because we have 1800 registered members all over the World & we do not need any more members but if any one need he will must pay (450$) registration charges for one year these charges will use for treatment of poor cancer patients , or you can fundraising for cancer patients and different charity projects.
We will contact & help only our registered members.Voluntarily fundraisers can visit this site and start fundraising after that you send us your CV & Id for registration.NOTE=For getting life time membership you must collect 27000$ Min donation for poor cancer patients. We have already registered members who getting regular cases on base of charity fundraisers … (If you can collect donations for poor cancer patients then apply for membership otherwise don’t waste time.source
Finally, something you should consider whenever you’re caught in a similar position is:
Confide in someone you trust. Sometimes, other people have an outsider’s perspective on a relationship that those in it can’t see for themselves. Consult with someone whose opinion matters to you and listen to what they have to say.
Disclaimer: This short summary of Halala should not be the only source taken into account. Please contact a lawyer or a scholar to get more insight into it.
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