Mohabbat Na Kariyo – An ending gone wrong?
Meray Paas Tum Ho was a mega-hit. We may disagree with the way the character of Ayeza Khan was portrayed but we cannot deny that people who commit cheating do not deserve an easy way out and forgiveness – regardless of their GENDER.
Men and women both are capable of cheating as both are human.
We have good and bad people and their gender does not stop them from doing something erroneous.
Meray Pass Tum Ho made a valid point when a cheating wife was not forgiven by her husband. The point here is, why do men who cheat always get a second chance in our dramas? Why is the wife supposed to forgive the man and even accept the man’s child from a second marriage?
We witnessed this flaw in the story line in the ending of Mohabbat Na Kariyo. The man not only follows his mother’s will and stays away from his wife but gets married to another woman and has a child with the second marriage. The wife, played by Hira Mani suffers to the core and bears negativity from her in-laws – God knows why. According to the writer, Hira loves her husband immensely and the only way to prove it was to stay with her in-laws while they malign her, insult her and even stoop to accusing her of having an affair – Ummm, is there no better way of expressing or proving your love, and that too, to the in-laws? Twisted plot much, if we say so!
After years, her husband returns with his 5-year old daughter. At this time, Hira is all set to leave the house FINALLY when suddenly (as expected), she makes a U-Turn and decides to spend a happy life with the same husband who lied to her, cheated her and abandoned her for many years.
Women can forgive men. There is nothing wrong with it, but
the problem is, making it a norm, making it obligatory and imperative for women to forgive their husbands no matter what. Through these dramas, we make a point that men involved in extramarital affairs should be forgiven and it is easier for women to forgive and forget, as opposed to men.
The pain of being cheated is the same for both genders,
it is a great ordeal to succumb to the fact that your better half was with someone else. Through our media, we are making a strong point that women can forgive and men cannot or should not.
A popular hit movie, Punjab Nahi Jaungi followed a similar story line where the husband cheats his wife, physically abuses her, and the “strong woman” played by Mehwish Hayat, decides to forgive her husband for a “happily ever after” ending.
Cheating is morally wrong – no matter who does it.
It should not be forgiven. We are all up for Danish who does not forgive and take Mehwish back in his life when we talk about Meray Paas Tum Ho and similarly, we would be more satisfied if Zara (Hira Mani) decides to end her ordeal after the whole fiasco she suffers in Mohabbat Na Kariyo, and decides to go it alone.
In this instance, we can applaud the way HUM TV hit, Khaas was executed where the woman decides to never go back to the husband who once cheated and insulted her.
Pakistani dramas are unknowingly or knowingly, creating and promoting gender-biased content.
Wives who ask for a separate house from the in-laws should not be portrayed as vamps, this is not a significant feature of a wrongful woman or daughter in law, this is her right.
Likewise, men who cheat should be ready for the upshot. It is high-time, Pakistani drama writers and makers review the way they are portraying women and how marriage is only saved when a wife forgives her cheating husband.
Numaira, a working mom and a qualified Pharmacist working for a Dubai based organization for their creative content. Her fondest memories are of her expat life in Abu Dhabi. Drawing strength from her mother and sisters, her family is her safe haven. Whenever she has the slightest of time in hand, she will be found running around her daughter and husband or with her laptop either writing or Netflixing.