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Are Pakistani Dramas Encouraging Us To Revisit Joint Family Living?

by Shazia Saqib Habib
April 29, 2021   -   5 minutes read
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Watching Shehnai currently on air, and then Ishq Jalebi, I wondered, is this the world we’re missing? The warm family moments with the not so comfortable realities? The good, the bad and the ugly of joint family living – is it really worth it

Are Pakistani dramas glorifying the joint family on screen or are they showing us how we must stay tolerant, learn to live together despite our (many) frictions? The argument carries weight (baat mein dum hai) what say you?

ramsha khan as meerab and affan waheed as Bakht in Shahnai drama, shehnai, shenai drama on ary
Joint family systems – Yay or Nay?

When I watch the Shehnai cousins chatting late in the night or the household making shami kebab together, or evening tea in the garden, I do miss the khaandaani vibes … but then, very quickly I’m pulled back into the real world as Kafi bhai hacks another plan to throw everything off track!

But jokes apart … this is what I feel about joint families once I finish off an episode or two of the typical Pakistani joint family living drama!

1. It’s Great For Children & Cousins To Grow Up Together

Ramadan drama's, loves stories, pakistani drama, tana bana, chupke chupke, ishq jalebi, actors
credits: Ishq Jalebi still from teaser 2 via Geo Tv

The memories you share as children, the closeness, the no judgements barred bond is so precious. You practically know each other inside out, and that bonding comes in handy much later in life when you are married, tending to your aging parents, as the support system you draw on might be a cousin who comes to your help.

2. Family Means Bickering But Family Also Means Love

nida mumtaz in shehnai, actors who impressed this week
still from ep 1&2
credits: ARY digital

You bicker, you complain, you talk about each other to each other but then, eventually, you also back each other in front of each other. Just like all the cousins stood together for Bakht but secretly scolded her for using Meerab, just like the daamad in Ishq Jalebi stands by his father in law but feels for his son Basim too. Joint families tell us that we are human, they do not insulate us in a bubble, they teach us to be tolerant and respectful to others.

3. Do Joint Families Make Us Angry & Bitter?

saleem meraj in shehnai, actors who impressed this week
still from ep 1 credits: ARY Digital

Now comes the hard part. Basim’s desire to escape, Joya and Hamza in Prem Gali walked out due to too much family interference, Shehnai extended family resents the centralized decision making powers – do joint families make us resentful and bitter? Yes, they might. Which is why, the person heading the joint family must be flexible, open to suggestions and yet, keep his or her hold (remember there are matriarchal joint families too, remember Shirin in Prem Gali)?

So the success of a joint family is heavily dependent on the central figure. Can he or can’t he make it happen?

4. Do Joint Families Make For More Tolerant Children?

Sharing is caring. Heard that one before? You share your room, your cupboard, your wardrobe and your bathroom. Of course, the car rounds, trips to college and a friend’s dholki all have to be cramped in as you share the joint resources of one multi-household.

Ramadan drama's, loves stories, pakistani drama, tana bana, chupke chupke, ishq jalebi, actors
credits: Har Pal Geo TV

Is that a good or a bad thing?

If you want the easy (and peaceful) way out, of course, sharing can be relegated to the garbage dump and you can live in eternal sukoon and isolation (Covid comes to mind). But do remember, when you do want that extra help – recall the ageing parent example in point 1 above? you might not be able to get it. Joint families mean a joint sharing of pain and happiness and of course … joint headaches too!

5. Are Joint Families For Everyone?

Hmmm, that’s a tough one. The answer?

For me, amidst all the Bakhts & Meerabs, the Joyas and Hamzas and the Basim & Bela story, there is a reason to believe we can restructure the joint family where we live together yet independently, close by, but not too close. Meet at least once a week if not more for family lunch and dinner, pitch in when a relative is at the hospital and needs care, respect the elders by being courteous but the elders too, need to understand that their job is to keep the family together with a warm heart, not a heavy hand – that means decentralization in many decision making spheres – this, in the long run, might make for a more peaceful, happier gain.

prem gali
Prem Gali – ARY Digital

Easier said that done? You say

Agreed. In conclusion, I would say, joint families should stay together because they want to, not because they have to. When the decision is in your hands, you have the power to choose, and that perhaps, is the best way to decide if you are the best fit for joint family living or not!

Till then, let’s slip back into the world of Shehnai & Ishq Jalebi to see what happens next!

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Shazia Saqib Habib

Shazia likes to pen her thoughts when she feels passionately about a life experience, a person or an event. She is mother to 3 lively boys and along with her husband, attempts to settle in her new country by taking German lessons so she is able to soak in the culture, language and spirit of the region. "Wake up in the morning, take a deep breath and exhale! Keep on living with a passion that inspires others! " Follow her on Instagram as @shazhabib or twitter as @shaz004

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