Yasra Rizvi is an actress, director, mother, and most importantly a charming personality. She is someone who refuses to be bound by society’s supposed ‘rules,’ and plans to live a life that goes beyond its superficial standards. Yasra has defied odds in everything she has done and it reflects in her choices. Whether it’s the kind of roles she chooses or whether it’s marrying someone 10 years younger than her, this is how Yasra wants her world to look like and she makes sure to keep it that way.
We recently had a heart-to-heart conversation with Yasra where she shared her refreshing take on age difference in marriage, society’s superficial standards regarding marriage, feminism, and more.
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Yasra’s marriage in 2017 was deemed ‘controversial’ because she married a man 10 years younger than her. This was supposedly ‘uncommon’ or let’s say, uncommon for a woman to do and still is. As you may have already guessed, she faced quite a bit of backlash for it too but didn’t let it get to her and that’s what makes her who she is.
Upon asking what her thought process was when she decided to marry her now-husband, Hadi, she said initially the thought of her being older than him did cross her mind because of society’s conditioning. According to Yasra, she doesn’t have quintessential expectations from marriage or the idea of love.
It is important to determine what your motivations are before you decide to marry someone. Is it money? Is it love? Or is it companionship?
Yasra says that her husband didn’t have a job when they married, but money was never her motivation. This is where our society falls short. People’s motivation to marry is based on superficial notions and Yasra never understood this motivation.
Marry for the right reasons and the rest (money, stability etc) will follow.
She believes our motivation for marriage is based on pre-conceived superficial notions.
Why They Decided To Marry
For Yasra, having mental compatibility, good understanding, and her husband being a trustworthy person was enough for her to make this decision. She went on to state that both Hadi and she didn’t have many expectations from marriage. Hence, it seemed like the right decision to get hitched to each other.
Hadi ko marriage as an institution nahi pasand but he said agar mujhe aapke saath rehnay poori zindagi rehnay keliye shaadi karni parhi tou mein shaadi karlunga
Yasra Rizvi
Her Advice To Those Who Want To Marry
Marriage is a social contract where both parties agree to live together and witness each other’s good & bad times. To live such a life, you must be clear about what you want in your partner, establish what’s important for you, and most importantly, know yourself. Be clear about the characteristics you want in your partner. Do you have mental and physical compatibility? Yasra believes there are a few points one should keep in mind when deciding to spend the rest of their life with someone. Before making a decision, ask yourself this:
Yeh insaan jis say aap shaadi karnay jaa rahay hain kya yeh aapke achay buray beliefs, apkay lifestyle, aapke maazi, aapke haal aur aapke mustaqbil ke iradoun se achi tarhan waaqif hai?
According to Yasra, once you have determined the aforementioned points, you don’t need anything else to get married. Her insights on marriage are a wake-up call for all those who have made this institution impossible to understand. It doesn’t have to be so complicated!
Views On Feminism
With Yasra being a strong independent woman in her real life and who’s reel life characters inspire women, we had to know her take on Feminism and understand it through her perspective.
She believes Feminism is a straightforward concept and the ‘problems’ we associate with it are not actually related to the concept itself. But yes, taking it to an extreme does seem like we are targeting a gender but have you ever wondered why it happens?
Sadiyoun ki oppression ka jab backlash aata hai na, itna hi hard aata hai
Yasra Rizvi
Yasra states that when the backlash is so hard, some collateral damage is bound to happen.
She revealed that she was criticized when she did Dunk.
When a girl speaks up about sexual harassment, she must be sure that she’s telling the truth because otherwise, it would affect the conversation that has taken years to gain traction.
Yasra Rizvi on Dunk
Has Aurat March Lost Its Purpose?
Yasra is of the opinion that Aurat March is a form of protest and expression. Groups of women get together and protest on issues that they feel are wrong in society. Their slogans will create individual conversations and there is only so much that can be achieved through a March. However, she feels, we don’t know what these people are doing for their cause in their personal lives. Maybe they are making individual efforts that we don’t know about. Aurat March is an infant movement, let’s give it more time, she added.
Taking herself as an example, she stated that she works in a production house that has hired her as a female director. It has just done a project about women which was written by a woman. By doing so, she is trying her best to break that glass ceiling and make an individual effort.
She also spoke about motherhood and the early stages of her life.
Do you resonate with her views? Tell us if you agree with her or if you have something to add! Scroll down to watch her full interview:
