If you are in a relationship, Atiqa Odho has tips for you – precious advice that you will do well to heed and raise your couple goals to a whole new level!
Atiqa Odho is a Pakistani TV legend who has gifted us back-to-back popular character roles through her diverse acting skills. From classic PTV dramas like ‘Dasht’ and ‘Nijaat’ to the very recent ‘Pyaar Ke Sadqay‘ and ‘Pardes’, she has always blown us away with her remarkable performances, grey characters that speak to us, and an undying charm that has won many hearts! But today, she gives us precious relationship advice that will go a long way for all those couples who struggle to strike a balance.
Atiqa Odho on relationships – 7 Tips that might help to keep your love story in a safe place:
1. You Deserve To Be Happy
Life is short, and we have limited time to live (“yeh time buhat humein kam mila hai”). Therefore, if you start thinking that I need to be happy and I want to achieve success in life as well and you keep waiting for somebody to show you the route to victory, it’s not going to happen. Hence, we should be happy in all our circumstances and all our struggles. Moreover, your happiness is affiliated with you and your children’s happiness that’s it.
2. Get Out Of That Abusive Relationship
If you are in an abusive relationship, then you should definitely leave. What happens in an abusive relationship is that you tend to end your self-worth and dignity (“Aap ka apna sab koch khatam ho chuka hota hai”). Atiqa says, “I was very clear from day one that I have a right to live a comfortable, happy life, and I want my children to grow up seeing an environment that is a stable and a normal existence, not a toxic situation.” Hence, she states that it’s better to get out and find a way to get out. If you have a supportive family and children, then consider them your strength rather than your weakness.
3. Don’t Fall Into ‘The Log Kya Kahenge’ Trap
Atiqa says, “Being in a toxic relationship just because your children are happy or society is getting satisfied is an artificial existence.” Society is irrelevant to your personal life because it doesn’t pay the bills or look after your children, and neither does it come to rescue you from domestic violence and abuse. Therefore, nobody is coming to your door, so who are you pleasing? What sort of social taboo or acceptability are you talking about? So, never compromise on your self-worth and dignity in life at any cost.
4. Financial Empowerment & Positivity Go A Long Way
If you are productive and positive, you will see good people coming into your life as well. Atiqa says, ” In my life, I have always been very hardworking (mehanti) and interested in what I do, so I have met fabulous people in my life.” Moreover, she says her will power to overcome life’s biggest tragedies of (failed) marriages was becoming the role model for all the girls on how to survive. Also, when a woman is financially empowered, she is ultimately powerful at home and other aspects of life. Hence, she suggests not to cry over the mistakes you have made as you have a whole lifetime to fix them, therefore, start now and fix it.
5. Own Your Mistakes, Learn & Move On
Always go with your instincts. Atiqa says “I never felt before making many of my decisions that I saw danger in doing so and all.” She says even her divorces weren’t wrong or bad choices. Furthermore, she clears that maybe she thought those decisions of marriages were okay at that time, but later, in the long run, it couldn’t work out. But, she has named all her mistakes as her empowering experiences as a single working mother.
6. Don’t Trap Yourself In A Time Frame
Atiqa says, “I got married young out of choice because I came from a broken home and I have always starved for a father figure in my life.” Moreover, she clears that after quite a long time, she understood that her childhood trauma about lacking a father figure made her marry and bear children at a young age. Furthermore, she talks about going to school and achieving her dreams after marriage as well. Hence, she believes that the time frame we set for ourselves doesn’t matter, and we can fix anything at any time in our lives.
7. Don’t Lose Compassion And Romance
Atiqa says, “In my family, people were bothered that two marriages didn’t work out so, how come the third will be a good idea, but I still believe in the institute of marriage and understand that it has its value.” Nonetheless, she says she didn’t lose her compassion and romance and gave her third marriage a chance. Moreover, she emphasizes that if you are in love, people’s opinion (“log kia kahein gae”) is not more important than your feelings and care for each other. Moreover, make choices from the heart and not from the pocket when it comes to partnerships. Also, it is never too late to fall in love if you have pure intentions.
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We hope Atiqa Odho’s advice resonated with you and will enable you to make good decisions regarding your relationship. Let us know in the comments if you agree with what she had to say or if you would like to add any advice of your own.